Growing up, everyone’s always warned me about a great many things. When I was younger, my parents made sure to tell me not to touch a flame or I’d burn myself. The taught me never to talk to strangers too much and never to wander by myself in a place I didn’t know of.
They also warned me about making sure that I set a goal for myself in life, just so that I would have a path to stick to. They told me that only once I reached that goal, would I be able to claim of having done something worthwhile in life.
So, as anyone would at this point, I started out on my journey, careful to be fearless and cautious at the same time. I was ready for that adventure of a lifetime. And just when the path started out, maybe a few miles down the road, I was hit by the biggest hurdle I had ever faced alone as of then, and even still continue to face it on multiple occasions to this day. Yes, I’m talking about the one thing in our lives that puts us all in our place, and that, is disappointments.
I wouldn’t be lying if I said that the first time I ever looked disappointment in the face, I was shocked, confused and terrified at the same time. I was disoriented at a whole knew level, and so very lost. I didn’t know what it was like, not living the life I imagined I would, every time I closed my eyes before I began to do anything of the sort. Everything was supposed to be perfect, the way I wanted it, but it wasn’t. Instead, it turned out quite the opposite, really. And it took me a while to fully comprehend the fact that no matter how close anyone is to success or how absolutely perfect a moment could seem, in all honesty, disappointments are little evil creatures only lurking around the very corner of the road. Whether it’s due to a friend failing to keep their word or the latest instalment in the Harry Potter series, disappointments are literally, everywhere, and there is nothing we can do to escape it.
Because here’s the truth.Throughout your life, you’re going to be more than disappointed with yourself on multiple occasions, when you find yourself tangled up in a mess that you created. You will fail every time you challenge yourself and honestly, I wish I knew earlier that that was okay. In fact, failing is good. Only when you fail, and maybe not just once either, will you ever learn how not to.
It’s a very important thing, rather, to know that failing is a necessary evil, and it’s all based on what you do after that matters. You’re always going to hit rock bottom, and every time, you’ll hit it hard. But it’s always also in your hands to choose whether to give up, or graciously find your feet and get back up. Your failings don’t define you. Your perseverance does. I don’t know where I’d be right now if very good friend once hadn’t taught me that.
He taught me that disappointments very much exist, and he and I, along with the rest of us are very much part of it’s vicious cycle-to disappoint and be disappointed. But there’s never a peak without a valley, and within what would the beauty of relationships lie if everything was monotonously perfect? He taught me that working my way up to the top from way below under was the only way I could redeem myself. And sure, I’d fall again, but the ups and downs are the only reason I’m distinguishable from a motionless piece of metal. He told me that it was okay for me to disappoint myself, and it’s only once I reach the top that I’d be fully contended, because I’d have finally surprised myself by doing all that I never thought I could.
this article has been overdue for so long, i’ve probably disappointed the very same “good friend” of mine all over again, but oh well.
yes vishaal, this one’s for you. and i can’t ever tell you how thankful i am for every single time you’ve had my back when i felt as alone as i ever could. thank you for pushing me to get myself back into my right mind, and thank you for everything you’ve ever said to me that i will always treasure.
also, i hope you’re still awake after reading this whole thing lol.